A question of honour:

[rowens]

I think it's a balancing act between uncompromising self dignity and universal compassion and active understanding. That you never take decisions lightly, that you and the specific loved ones in your life come first (loved ones or yourself, first: in moderation as much as possible); but that you never deceitfully, underhandedly take advantage of strangers or "nonloved ones" unless there's absolutely no time or options to do otherwise. And that you admit when you have been deceitful, as soon as you can, and try to make amends for. And that you never slack off those responsibilities to yourself and others, that your main work in life be these considerations and strivings.